My ex's new boyfriend. Now before you say anything, understand it is NOT because he's replacing me. I've hated him for a far greater amount of time than I've been friends with her. Let me start off with a basic description of his physical appearance: white, buzz cut, short, reasonably built (comparable to me), athletic shorts, flip flops, wifebeater. Now, let's analyze why he looks the way he does. The white isn't really up to him, and I can't fault him as I'm white too. The buzz cut is because he thinks it looks bad ass. The shortness isn't up to him, but it might be something he feels he needs to compensate for. As I said, he's reasonably built, and he claims he's a hardcore kickboxer. Again, this is to come off as bad ass. However, he is no where near built enough to be a fighter of any kind. The athletic shorts and flip flops are supposed to give off this, "I'm so bad ass cause I don't care about how I look" vibe. Noticing a theme? The wifebeater is to show off his omgzawesome guns.
In short, he looks ridiculously stupid and trashy because he thinks he looks bad ass, and he wants to show off. He doesn't even have enough humility to pretend otherwise. I guess he assumes absurdly cocky comes off as cool. What's worse is that he's a total shell of a person. He has no interests. Any time he talks to someone, he just pretends to enjoy whatever they like. He always tries to bring up cars with me even though he knows absolutely nothing about them. He brings up anime in front of one of my ex's friends who's into that.
Now, to make matter worse, this empty person who's beyond shallow and who's only hobby seems to be getting stoned is now dating someone I care deeply about, someone who has security issues around her boyfriends (over the years; she only has one at a time ;)) and can be easily manipulated, someone who's desperately afraid of being alone. Do you see why I hate this guy so much?
Needless to say, he doesn't like me either. However, it's only because I somehow stole his girl from him. You know, the one he wasn't dating. The one who wasn't interested in him at the time. The one who'd been getting along wonderfully with me for 4 months before we even started to date.
Because of this guy, I'm sitting here writing this blog instead of hanging out at the beach with my friends. My ex demanded he be invited (none of her/our friends like him either; he wasn't originally invited), and we can't be around each other for more than five minutes without risking a serious fight, so I had to back out of a trip I'd been planning on going on for six months.
Now, imagine how it feels to be told that this guy is somehow better than you.
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Ouch.
It’s k man. If I was there, we could chill at the beach. (nohomo of course)
We could play volleyball with babes.
You should’ve gone to the beach, pretended to be drowning, and cracked his head with a coconut.
oh the beach
Haha, that’s the issue. I hate his guts, but if she really likes him, I want her to be as happy as possible. So I’m going through this frustrating thing where I’m self-destructing, ruining things for myself so she stays happy. Otherwise, several coconuts would have already been cracked.
*giggles*
-high pitched giggle-
I love da beach, but I live in NJ, so it’s warm all year round. Anyway, I don’t know how to handle your problem.
Tell her how you feel and make sure she knows its not because hes dating her.
Oh, we’ve had very long talks about this. She knows I don’t like him at all. However, some things I won’t say, out of consideration for her. We still talk and everything, we’re just like close friends now, but that’s all. It’s hard for me to do that, even, because of the bittersweet feeling all the good times evoke now, but it’s much better than ignoring each other, I think.
Oh.. did you try telling her you really care for her and you think she deserves better? 🙁
It doesn’t do much when she has no problem with him. There’s a lot of back story to this, and I’m looking for somewhere where I talked about it on the site, but I can’t seem to find it. Oh, right! It was on proboards. One sec.
Yikes..
And okay 😛
And okay 😛
Check out this
thread.
LOL you pretended a Mulch Pile was that guy?
LOL 😛
But seriously, if you LOVE her, tell her. 🙁
LOL 😛
But seriously, if you LOVE her, tell her. 🙁
She broke up with me because her feelings weren’t developing like she thought they were (It’s BS, and as I said on Proboards, she has issues about loneliness/rejection that are fueling all of it). That means that no matter what I do, there is currently no way she’ll come back; she believes the feeling aren’t there right now. She seems legitimately happy with him, and has now been dating him longer than she dated me, so there’s not much I can do at this point.